In Support of All Women

I am not a fan of beauty (excuse me scholarship) pageants, because the emphasis is on physical rather than internal attributes, but I certainly was shocked that at a time when human trafficking is up, and females are disappearing off the street, some people are upset about the ethnicity of the 2014 Miss America. In 93 years of pageant history, there has been 1 winner who was Jewish, a few who were African American, one of Filipino heritage, and now a winner whose family originated in India. In an immigrant nation that claims to be the best destination for opportunity, a brown immigrant’s descendant should not claim the crown? It’s disheartening that in this country which has been occupied by brown people for over 20,000 years, there should be such response to a relatively insignificant event that is opened to the few who are thin, attractive, and perhaps somewhat talented. Though personally disinterested, I do realize that some females, who fit the requirements, see this as a way to achieve their goals. I would caution them to proceed with care, but I won’t criticize their choice.
That brings me to Miley Cyrus, the newest Disney graduate, who has been behaving badly. I am impressed that Sinead O’Connor, a veteran of the same industry, addressed this young lady’s situation by offering advice rather than condemning her.
“I am extremely concerned for you that those around you have led you to believe, or encouraged you in your own belief, that it is in any way ‘cool’ to be naked and licking sledgehammers in your videos,” Sinèad wrote. “It is in fact the case that you will obscure your talent by allowing yourself to be pimped, whether it’s the music business or yourself doing the pimping.” “The music business doesn’t give a sh*t about you, or any of us,” she continues. ……”They will prostitute you for all you are worth, and cleverly make you think it’s what YOU wanted… and when you end up in rehab as a result of being prostituted, ‘they’ will be sunning themselves on their yachts in Antigua, which they bought by selling your body and you will find yourself very alone.”
This was the kind of response that is needed when a sister witnesses another behaving in a detrimental way. I think Miley’s actions were appropriate for the context and content of Blurred Lines. Robin’s mother was quoted as being concerned about Miley’s actions and proximity to her son while on stage. Why wasn’t she concerned about the words her son co-wrote and sang? Nothing was mentioned about him calling women “b_____s” more than once in the song. A different publication stated, “The unrated music video for Blurred Lines features three topless models wearing flesh-colored thongs. They cavort next to Thicke, Pharrell Williams and rapper T.I. . . . . Some critics call the lyrics misogynistic as well.” The rhythm is fun, a good party and dance beat, but the message is disturbing. The song took less than an hour to create, as of July reached more than 242 million radio listeners, and the beat goes on.
Robin is 34, and Miley is 20. Once again, the male encouraging or participating in questionable behavior, walked away unscathed as the female participant became the scapegoat. We have got to raise our girls to love themselves. We need to hug them when they make mistakes along the way, and brainstorm with them about alternatives when poor choices might lead to their demise. This is much more important than heritage of Miss America. Maybe one day women won’t feel the need to cavort!

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